Here we go again...

My camera usually tags along wherever I go, and out of the hundreds of shots that I take, I usually only end up with a handful (if that) of photos worth sharing. Coulby is not the most cooperative subject, so I have to be quick with the camera if I want a decent photo of him. I have found that calling his name and snapping off a shot when he turns to respond is my best plan of attack. Hence the photo accompanying this post. This photo of my sick boy. Yeah, I said sick boy. As in he does not want to eat anything and throws up every time we try to push something on him. So what do we feed a kid who does not want to eat but HAS to get so much protein and so many calories and so many ounces of fluid in every day?


Honestly this week has been such a test of patience. I am failing miserably. It does not help that patience is not a virtue I am blessed with. Then to have to maintain patience with Coulby when he does not want to eat anything, and I mean ANYTHING, well...it is just next to impossible for me. And I know that he did not ask for any of this. This life that he was given: always having food pushed on him, always having to drink his concoction of formula and medicine, having monthly blood draws at Hopkins and enduring hospital stays when illnesses cannot be managed from home. The poor kid has been through so much in his short life.

Here is to hoping that after four days of not feeling well, Coulby will start to rebound and get back on metabolic track. It is emotionally and physically draining to be a parent of a child with a metabolic disorder any day, but especially when he gets sick. My impatience comes mostly from my fear of Coulby becoming hyperamonemic, with the possibility of brain damage, and ending up at Hopkins, confined to a bed with an IV in his arm for several days. I know that people cannot really know what this experience is like unless they live it, but I always hope that by blogging, those who do not live with a UCD day in and day out can at least learn what it means for those of us who do. And for those who do, I have the utmost respect for you because I know exactly what it is like!

This topsy-turvy, unpredictable kind of life...

A year goes by and I begin to forget all of the implications of his disorder. A year TO.THE.DAY. February 26. I should always expect that slap back into reality. Because I know he is always one metabolic episode away from hyperammonemia (elevated levels of ammonia that can cause brain damage), hospitalization, coma and even death. Just the slightest inconsistency and Coulby can be thrown into a cyclonic downward metabolic spiral.

But it is so easy to slip into that comfort zone. That state of loosening up just a little because Coulby has been doing so well and staying so metabolically stable. The initial days following hospitalizations are always the most tense and those in which I am most hyper-sensitive to everything Coulby is doing, saying, eating...anything. When he gets back to baseline I feel myself relax just a little. And the more time that goes by without issue, the more I relax and the easier it is to suppress the horrors of his disorder. How could we have a normal family life if we were always lying in wait for the next illness? The next metabolic instability? The next hospitalization? So I allow myself to live just a little. For Coulby and for my own sanity. And then...BAM! Back to the hospital.

This time it came on suddenly. Coulby went to school on Thursday morning, had a good day, ate his lunch with no issues, did not complain of not feeling well. Came home and spent that evening running around with Caroline shrieking and playing. Nothing unusual. But he did not want to eat his chicken nuggets. First indicator that something might be wrong. He had been scarfing those things down, drenched in ranch dressing, for the last week or so. He actually started crying after the plate was put in front of him, almost as if it pained him to think of eating anything. Second indicator. We decided it was easier to just let Coulby drink milk that night to meet his protein needs. That is when he started holding his stomach. Third indicator. He said he had a little stomachache. Nothing came of it and he drank his milk and went to bed.

Coulby woke up crying not long after he had gone to bed. We found him sitting in his bed where he had been rudely awoken by the earlier stomachache and thrown up. Aside from crying, Coulby seemed to have recovered without issue, which is always a good thing with his disorder. He was alert and responsive. His eyes were clear and not glassy. I stripped the bed while my husband took Coulby into the bathroom to get him washed off. Coulby spent the night in the bed with my husband, who said he woke up whimpering and then throwing up about every hour. It is detrimental to Coulby's metabolic stability if he loses too much fluid and/or calories. He was vomiting so much that we were not able to replenish what he was losing, and by morning we were packing him up to take him to Hopkins for an inevitable admission.

I drove, well above the speed limit and in a daze, my instincts on overdrive, to get Coulby to the hospital. Getting through Baltimore city traffic is always tough, and then I practically had to drive to the top of the parking deck to get a parking spot. A very narrow parking spot at that. It was like trying to squeeze into a pair of jeans that are one size too small! Imagine trying to get my stuff out of the car PLUS Coulby, who at that point was in bad shape and needing to be carried. All 45+ pounds of him! It took some fancy maneuvering, let me tell you. And if it had not been such a crisis situation, I might have actually found it comical. But I made it through the hospital to the ER and got enough of a workout to last the next month.

Hopkins is notorious for dragging their feet when we bring Coulby to the ER. You would think that a child who requires immediate care with the risk of elevated ammonia and brain damage would have a specific, individual protocol. But they follow a standardized protocol and it usually takes too long to get Coulby into a room, to get an IV in him, get bloodwork and to get fluids and medicine running into the IV. This time I was surprised that they got him into a room so quickly, but the events following negated their speed in doing so. (Elaboration to come.)

I knew that Coulby was fading fast and that his ammonia must be elevated, I just did not know by how much. He was not responding to anything I said and his eyes took on a glassy look. He started getting lethargic. Despite this, if any of the hospital staff touched him or he heard any of the familiar noises only a hospital can boast, he became very agitated. Aggressive in a way that I had never, ever witnessed him before. He was kicking, flailing, scratching, pinching and biting. He drew blood scratching the nurse (a small victory for him for all of the times he had been pinned down and poked and prodded by nurses), and I restrained him with my arms and legs and tried soothing him by talking to him. He bit down on my arm with the full force of his jaw. If I had not been able to pull my arm away, he would have broken skin. It was startling to have him bite me. So upsetting because I knew it was not like Coulby at all and because when I talked to him, he looked right at me with no recognition in his eyes. Do you know how heartbreaking it is to have your own child look at you and not know who you are? It is devastating. Frightening beyond all comprehension. One of the worst things I have ever experienced in my life, and something I hope to never have to experience again. Something I will never forget no matter how much time passes or how hard I try. I felt the tears welling up in my eyes and could not help crying about it. But only for a moment. A brief moment. Because I could not focus on my emotions right then. They were secondary to getting Coulby the care he so desperately needed.

The series of events in the ER had a snowball effect. The ER does not stock the correct formula of fluids that Coulby needs to flush out the toxins, hydrate him and replenish calories. So they had to start by using what they had. His ammonia came back at 317!! 317! Normal is 0-32, for those of you who are not familiar. Ammonia is toxic. 317 is startling. Scary. Threatening. It is crucial to get ammunol running into the IV to bring that number down into normal range. The doc wrote a script for the ammunol, but made the biggest error in judgment by listening to the pharmacy and changing the script as they told her it needed to be filled. We have learned the hard way to NEVER trust the pharmacy. Check. Double check. TRIPLE check everything! Guess each doctor has to learn this in his own time as well. But Coulby always suffers at the expense of these errors.


So the ammunol was FINALLY delivered and started hours after arriving in the ER, but was stopped only after 15 minutes of being administered. Coulby was still sound asleep and I knew he had to have that ammunol. The doctor explained to me that the ammunol administered was too concentrated and that it should have been filled in a 1L container to administer the proper ratio. Human error. Inexcusable. We are dealing with Coulby's brain! So the wait was on for the new 1L container of ammunol. Each minute seemed like an hour. And then it arrived! That glass bottle of liquid gold! The nurse brought it into the room and prepared to hang it and then it happened. The icing on the cake. I watched in horror as she lost her grip on the GLASS bottle with Coulby's lifeline. It fell out of her hands in slow motion and shattered on the floor into a million pieces. If I could have screamed I would have. I looked at the floor with the ammunol my baby so needed to be running into his veins and just stared. The smell hit me. Everyone calls it "stinky meds." It is said to smell like rotten egg with a bitter sweet scent mixed in. I am immune. I smell it on Coulby every day. When he sweats. When he has sipped from my cup. On his clothes. It is his scent. I kind of like it, actually.


My eyes welled up again. Not so much because I was sad, but because after everything that had happened that day, this was the last thing I could handle. I wanted to cry in frustration. Then I felt the anger boiling up inside of me. I said nothing. I sat there in utter shock and kept my mouth shut. Until the doctor strolled into the room. Coulby's dietitian, always in his corner, just happened to come in then as well. And I laid it out. I went off. I let all of the anger and frustration and fear and hurt come out. Goodbye to nice me. It takes a lot to make me mean. To get me mad enough to release it all. But it was too much. Too much had gone wrong. Too much time had passed between our arrival and the medicine being started. Too many people were more than willing to gamble with my son's mental capacity. And someone had to take responsibility for it all. The doctor stared at me, speechless. When I felt a little better, I left Coulby guarded by his dietitian, one of the only people at Hopkins that I would ever trust with my son. I took some deep breaths, called my hubby, who always fights beside me, and vented.

We spent the whole day in the ER. Coulby slept the entire day away. He would occasionally wake, whimpering if anyone touched him, but I use the term "wake" very loosely. His eyes did not open. He did not respond to my voice. He just whimpered. It was scary. Seeing him lying there, hooked up to the IV and looking so small in the hospital bed, completely out of it. I had not heard Coulby's voice since 8:30 Friday morning. I had not seen his eyes open with recognition since we had arrived at Hopkins.

It was literally 8:30 p.m. before Coulby was transferred to the PCRU (the floor on which he has always been treated during hyperammonemic episodes). Nothing really woke him or caused him to stir. I watched him a lot that night. I missed hearing his voice. I missed the noise of my rough and tumble little boy. I missed seeing the life in his eyes. And then, some time in the wee hours of the morning, Coulby stirred and sat up. His eyes were still mostly closed, but he was aware of his surroundings, although confused by them. He responded to my voice! And when he finally opened his eyes, he recognized me! And the first thing he said to me in almost 12 hours was, "I need to go potty!"

Coulby's recovery started at that point. He started talking a little more and asking questions. A whole day of his life was completely wiped out of his memory. I wish I could erase some of the horrors of the ER from my mind. They will haunt me forever, perhaps faded, but never erased.

Mentioning any of the other disappointments or discrepancies of Coulby's hospital stay and care would really serve no purpose other than to convey my lack of trust in the inner workings of the medical world. Most important is that he recovered from an ammonia of 317 with all Coulbyisms intact; a spirit unbroken by all that most deem unfair for a child to have to experience. Final ammonia prior to discharge, after spending just shy of 4 full days in the hospital, was 33!!

So we settle back in to our life at home, walking on ice for the first several days to make sure Coulby improves his protein and caloric intake each day. The thought is always in the back of our minds: what if he ends up right back at Hopkins? It is stressful, but not as much so as being in the confines of the hospital. When the dust settles and each day seems more and more normal, it is inevitable that I will slip into the comforts of our daily routine. I will let myself relax and live just a little. If I can remind myself to keep the memories of this hospitalization fresh, maybe, just maybe, it will not be such a slap when Coulby has another metabolic episode. Hopefully it will be another good year (although I hope even longer) before I feel that sting on my face.

Sick...again!

"Now make sure you keep your hands really clean, do not get near sick friends, wash your hands after playing in centers, and remember to use lots and lots of Purell." Coulby has heard me say this so many times that he has actually started reciting parts of it to me right before he gets on to the school bus to enter the germy world of public schools. In some part of my brain, I foolishly believed that this daily recitation would prevent Coulby from participating in the 'pass-the-virus-on' preschool game, from which he has brought home colds and other assorted illnesses. I suppose Coulby would have to live in a bubble in order to avoid ever getting sick, which we all know is not even an option.

What is my point? Coulby is sick...yet again! He was just sick about a month ago with some nasty stomach virus, which was hard on him, stressful on us, but still managed at home. In the last few days, Coulby has gone from having a runny nose, to being stuffed up, to a nasty cough, fever, and loss of appetite. Dealing with the cold symptoms: piece of cake. Dealing with the fever and loss of appetite: well, that on top of his Citrullinemia is extremely stressful and exhausting. For all of us.

Coulby's body can react to a fever by drawing stores from his body, which can cause excess protein in his system and possible hyperammonemia. We have to treat the fever with round-the-clock Motrin, and also make sure his protein intake is less than his expected daily intake. We also have to make sure that Coulby is drinking plenty of fluids, preferably those with calories. This will ensure ideal hydration and flushing of his system. By keeping caloric intake up, Coulby's body will be less likely to draw from its own protein stores to replenish his system and make him get better.

With all of this said, you can see why we dread Coulby being sick. There is the constant care to make sure he is getting what he needs to not only get better, but also to maintain his metabolic stability. Fear of hospitalization triggers stress. When he does not want to eat, he is not getting what he needs to prevent hospitalization. When he does not drink, he is not keeping himself hydrated and can end up becoming hyperammonemic. The average cold turns into a nightmare.

I pray that we can get Coulby through this cold here at home, and we are doing everything in our power to do just that. Please pray for him. For an appetite. For no more fever. For healing.

Balancing Act

So I have never been one to blog, but I finally felt like blogging might be the answer to educating people about Urea Cycle Disorders. Why would I want to do this? Because I live a Citrulllinemia life. Well, not me specifically, but as the parent of a 4.5 year old with a chronic metabolic disorder, I live the life of caretaker, with one object: to maintain the balance.

My story starts without too much excitement...well, maybe it is kind of exciting, considering I started my marriage with the excitement of the coming new year just over 6 years ago. Yup, I was crazy enough to want to get married on 12/31. And you know what? It was a BLAST!! People still talk about it. The party of a lifetime! I digress...I married my high school sweetheart just over 6 years ago. We have had a happy marriage, balancing the normal upkeep of a healthy marriage, a crazy work schedule (his!), and eventually, the priceless chaos that two adorable children add to our lives. It has always seemed that life has been perfect for us. Everything has fallen in to place easily. We have not had to struggle for much. Our marriage is happy. We have a boy and a girl-the best of both worlds. P-E-R-F-E-C-T. But how boring would life be if it was perfect? Right?

I became pregnant easily when we had been married for about 7 months. We did not waste time! I had the epitome of the perfect (there is that word again!) pregnancy. Our son decided not to make his entrance into this world until he was good and ready, which just happened to be on his daddy's birthday! 1 in 365 chance...what are the odds of that? I guess it happens, but we just thought that was the coolest thing. What a birthday present! I have never outdone it, as you can imagine. Coulby Patrick was a big boy, weighing in at 8 lbs. 1.5 oz. He was healthy and beautiful and his daddy's pride and joy from the moment he was born.

We settled in to our new life as a family of 3, and went through the usual uncertainties of being new parents. Despite our inexperience, at 4 days old, Coulby seemed to be doing just fine, doing all of the things newborns do. Crying, sleeping, eating, pooping...the norm. Nothing unusual. So when we received a phone call from the pediatrician's office alerting us that Coulby's newborn screen had yielded some alarming results, we were both in shock. We were told to take him to Johns Hopkins ER immediately. "They" would be waiting for us. We asked questions, and the only thing the pediatrician seemed to be able to tell us was that the situation could be life threatening. No directions to the hospital. No explanations as to what these numbers might mean. Nothing.

That began our Citrullinemia story. We somehow made it to Hopkins, although for the life of me I could not tell you how. I barely remember riding there. I was numb. We arrived, and sure enough, "they" were waiting for us. "They" turned out to be genetic doctors, as well as a slew of nurses and other assorted people. Coulby had to have blood work done, and an IV put in his tiny arm, his 4-day-old arm, which apparently had teeny tiny veins, because he was poked about 10 or so times before they finally got the IV in successfully. He screamed. We cried. It was the most helpless feeling I have ever felt in my entire life. That night someone found us a room in the hospital so we could get some sleep. Actually, it was more like a utility closet with 2 twin beds squeezed from wall to wall. My husband and I could not even sleep in the same bed that night, to comfort each other and ease each other's fears. We held hands between the beds and prayed. Hard.

When we woke up the next morning and realized the entire night before had not been a dream, we went to be with our baby and find out what was going on. It was confirmed that Coulby's initial newborn screen had yielded accurate results, which meant a diagnosis of a rare metabolic disorder, more specifically, a urea cycle disorder, called Citrullinemia. Huh? That is what we thought, too. It was scary and foreign to us. We sat down at a large conference-type table surrounded by genetic doctors, our two sets of parents, and other people I do not recall. We were educated on what Citrullinemia is, what it meant for our son, and what it would mean for us.

Citrullinemia is a urea cycle disorder in which the body is unable to break down excess protein. This can lead to a toxic build up of ammonia in the body, also known as hyperammonemia. At such toxic levels, hyperammonemia can lead to neurological damage, coma, and even death. It requires immediate treatment of IV fluids and medications. In order to balance protein intake, Coulby was going to need a high calorie, low protein diet, in which all food and drink consumed would need to be weighed on a scale and logged each day. Protein and calorie requirements would be based on growth and blood tests. Coulby would require routine check-ups at Hopkins. In addition to all of this, he would also need two medications daily: Argenine and Sodium Phenylbuterate (Buphenyl). These would be mixed into a powdered formula and consumed that way. And it does not stop there. Because the body naturally draws from protein stores in the bones when fighting illness, Coulby could get an excess amount of protein if he were to become ill. The excess protein would cause, you guessed it, hyperammonemia. You must realize that hyperammonemia is extremely serious, and is time-sensitive in terms of getting treatment. It might only be a matter of hours before brain damage occurs.

This was scary stuff! No one could predict how well Coulby would respond to IV therapy, if he already had brain damage, and how much of his life he would be spending in the hospital. We were told to be "cautiously optimistic." Not too promising, so it seemed.

4.5 years later Coulby is a happy, healthy little boy who is full of life and full of spirit! He was later diagnosed as having partial Citrullinemia, because he in fact has some enzyme function. We have hit rough spots along the way, but he is doing far better than anyone anticipated, and than we could have dreamed he would that first night at Hopkins. Coulby has spent nights in the hospital with dangerously high ammonias, has battled illnesses, some of which landed him in the hospital, has maintained the balance of his metabolic needs despite being a picky eater from the start, and endured many, MANY blood draws and IVs. And he is still smiling. Still thriving. Still charming everyone he meets. Still growing and learning and living the life we hoped he would. He started pre-school at the start of the school year, which was a big step for us, being germophobic and all.

And this is our life. Anticipating hospitalizations, but not living for them. Fearing germs and illness, but not hiding from them. Living the ups and downs of Citrullinemia, but learning and growing from each one. We see the blessings in this life we have been given; this awesome boy we call our son. He teaches me something new every day.


*Keep following my story and learn more about Citrullinemia and our family. Check out the link under A Citrullinemia Life to learn more about Urea Cycle Disorders and what you can do to help!